So how do you really, really feel?
Such a great question. After a week of being way outside of the box – a new city, a new place to sleep, 8 new people – has anything changed?
Tabetha has challenged us to answer some questions – to give a bit of time and a bit of thought to what the retreat has meant to us – and I shall oblige her – and blog about it!
Here are her list of mentally challenging questions…
- What aspects of the retreat environment helped you feel connected (to yourself, to others, to your art, to your source?)
- What aspects of the retreat helped you to feel safe?
- What/who inspired you?
- How can you create or recreate that kind of space (connected, safe and inspirational) for yourself at home?
- What part of the creative process felt most freeing or energizing?How can you bring more of that energy into your everyday life?
- What was the most transformative moment for you during the retreat?How did that experience shift your perspective or open you up to new possibilities?
- What emotions surfaced during the retreat, and how do you feel about them now?What did those emotions teach you?
- What personal or creative insights emerged for you during the retreat?How can you use these insights to guide the next steps in your creative journey or life path?
- What challenges or resistance did you encounter on the retreat?What did they teach you about yourself, and how can you navigate similar challenges moving forward?
- What new habits or practices from the retreat would you like to incorporate into your life?How will you ensure you make time and space for these practices?
- Looking back at the retreat, what are you most grateful for?
Question 1: What aspects of the retreat environment helped you feel connected (to yourself, to others, to your art, to your source.?
When I was in Santa Fe at the Ranch – I felt very connected to the sun and the shadows of Santa Fe/New Mexico. The light was so bright, the shadows so dark and the lines between so clean and sharp. I simply love light like that – it stirs my soul I think. I hated leaving because I knew I was going back to cold and damp and grey. Of course Montreal didn’t disappoint me – but that’s not a surprise. So the openness of the Ranch, the walls that weren’t really walls, the doors that weren’t really doors – all of that made me feel connected to the outside even when I was inside – and I love that feeling.
The ease with which folks moved from one area of the Ranch to another also made for an interesting feeling of connection. Some rooms even had passages thru them – and connectivity happened in an unforced and very natural way. There was always someone to talk with – and it was equally easy to find quiet spots where others steered clear. This of course works best when the weather is lovely – and thank goodness – the weather in Santa Fe was amazing.
(Feb 4, 2026) Question 2: What aspects of the retreat helped you to feel safe?
I’m guessing this about feeling safe to relax and be yourself – and for that I’d say – Tabetha and the other retreat folks. When the folks around you are feeling safe to share – you feel safe to share too.
(Feb 4, 2026) Question 3: Who/What Challenged you?
My good feelings about the light, the sun, the heat – made me want to capture those feelings – and since I’m not a great artist – I felt very challenged by my intense desire to create something/anything that captured that joy and relaxed feeling.
(Feb 4, 2026) Question 4: How can you create that space/feeling at home?
I can’t. And I tried. I come closer on St. Croix – similar light, similar heat – similar relaxation – but without other people going – ‘now is time to do art’ – I find myself distracted by life.
(Feb 4, 2026) Question 5: What part of the creative process felt most freeing. How can you bring that feeling into your daily life?
Since I left the retreat – 18 months ago – I’ve experimented with other kinds of art – and I found my greatest focus doing medium sized Zentangles on – of all things – the lids from Swifter Wet Containers. They are clear plastic – and quite stiff. I painted them white, then drew on images, then Zentangled inside the drawings. Such fun! Of course I painted the white other colors – generally a sea green that just felt relaxing. And right now – I’m being creative by writing – first about that retreat – and then about my lastest crazy trip – to Egypt and Jordan. In fact, right now I’m actually sitting on the roof terrace of our hotel, listening to kids swimming in the pool and watching the Nile flow past. What a busy river!
(Feb 4, 2026) Question 6: Most Transformative Moment?
Chatting with one of the fellow participants who explained to me that I thrive on the energy of a group of people. Left alone, I retreat into myself, but put me into a group and I’m more alive, energetic, and happy. And siting here on the roof of our hotel in Cario, I’m thinking – yup – so true.
(Feb 4, 2026) Question 7: Emotions?
During the retreat – I felt inspired and relaxed. A marvelous combination for creating art. And I felt very focused – which is part of the reason I started doing art anyway. I love how I feel when I’m focused – at work or at play – hence Competitive Bridge, Programming Computers, Developing IT Solutions to ERP problems. Focus is Fun. I like doing my blog for the same reason – Being Focused makes me happy. And I love being happy.
(Feb 4, 2026) Question 8: Personal or Creative Insights?
During the retreat – my big learning moment was that insight into how I pull energy from a group (in a good way I hope). Since the retreat I’ve become more aware of how absolutely goal driven I am. I wanted to earn my Life Master’s in Bridge. And for 5 years I did everything I could to achieve that goal. I studied techniques, I played countless hands, and traveled to Regional and National Competitions. I play on-line daily, had a list of potential partners all lined up – and there was rarely a day where I didn’t play at least 2 games. Then in September of 2024 – I got my Life Masters. And suddenly – I didn’t really feel like playing bridge. My drive was gone. Goal achieved, check that off – move on.
(Feb 4, 2026) Question 9: Challenges during the retreat?
I know that I’m not really very artistic – I enjoy the focus, I love doing the art and creating images that convey how I’m feeling – and I really like creating useful items – hence the fun of painting the lids of Swifter Boxes. They make great bedside trays to keep stuff from staining wood. So ignoring my self-defined limitations and moving on to be creative – that’s tough. Actually – it’s getting started that’s the hardest thing. So many distractions!
(Feb 4, 2026) Question 10: New Habits and how to make space for them?
Oh Tabetha – that’s a really tough question. I’m not sure that I came up with new habits, and I’m pretty certain that I didn’t make space for them. If anything – my artistic push rather peaked in St. Croix in 2025 – and I’ve found it increasing challenging to make time to do ‘art’ since then. Zentangle, because it’s faster and easier to prep and finish (often under an hour) – is the easier choice, so I have found time to do that – not daily however. I did however find time daily to do Yoga. And that has been very inspiring. And to force that habit – I just guilted myself when I didn’t spend the 20 minutes each AM doing Yoga. This said – I had a major collapse in January 2026 – I caught Flu-A, which knocked me flat – got a transfer of 1 litre of water (I was super dehydrated), and eventually ended up with Pneumonia. My sister helped pull me thru – but now it’s a month later and I’ve done no Yoga and no Painting – not even Zentangle. About time to get my life back on track!
(Feb 4, 2026) Question 11: What am I most grateful for?
Health and Happines – Family and Friends of course!
Signing off to change gears and start writing up my Bucket List trip to Egypt and Jordan
The Soup Lady





